It’s OK to change your mind

You’ve worked hard to get here, you’ve achieved all the milestones you aimed for, you have the job you always wanted. And you know you didn’t do it solely on the basis of your education and diligence. No, there is a handful of mentors, supervisors and teachers who have supported you, advocated for you, paved the way.

So what do you do when you realize this is no longer your dream job?

Moments like this can bring up powerful conflicted feelings. We know we need to make a change, yet some of us feel stuck, indebted to the people who invested in us.

Here’s where the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes can really help. Imagine that you are your boss, the person who stood up for you to get those promotions, who perhaps argued for money in the budget to get you that special training.

Does that boss feel angry, resentful, like she’s wasted her time? Or does he say, “Go forth, find your happiness — I’m honoured to have been part of helping you get ahead and I’m excited to see where you go next.”

Chances are, anybody who has considered you worthy of their support will take pleasure in watching you move down a new path that’s right for you. So go ahead, thank them graciously for their guidance and MAKE YOUR MOVE.

This short life is nobody’s life to live but yours.

 

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